人们大多都集悲观和乐观于一身，但会偏向于其中一方。这是从小受母亲的影响而形成的一种思维模式。父母无数次地警告或鼓励，消极或积极的话语是这种思维模式形成的根源。太多的“不能”和危险的警告让孩子感到无所适从，备感恐惧——这样就形成了悲观主义。虽然悲观主义很难克服，但也不是全然不能克服。
享受花朵和蜂蜜的快乐On Pleasure
卡里·纪伯伦/Kahil Gibran
Pleasure is a freedom song, but it is not freedom. It is the blossoming of your desires；but it is not their fruit, it is a depth calling unto a height；but it is not the deep nor the high, it is the caged taking wing；but it is not space encompassed1.Ay, in very truth, pleasure is a freedom song.And I fain would have you sing it with fullness of heart；yet I would not have you lose your hearts in the singing.